Sunday, October 6, 2013

Of Ashes and Heartbreak


Nagpatawag ng inuman si King noong sabado ng gabi, mukhang may problema sila ng boyfriend niya. 

Pagdating ko sa bahay ni R, sina Ronald, King and R pa lang ang nandoon at habang himbing na himbing sa pagtulog si Ronald (Pagod kasi galing work) ay siya namang tindi ng emosyon na ibinabahagi ni King kay R.

Grindr, time, appreciation at gimik ang pinagmulan ng away nila.

Pinabasa niya sa amin ito. (Si King bilang blue bubble at ang jowa niya ang gray bubble)





*but I didn't say that it is not important



















Nahirapan akong magbigay ng advice. 

Pareho silang may point

Pareho silang may kasalanan

Pareho silang may pagkukulang

Kung iisipin maliit na problema lang ito, kayang kayang gawan ng paraan pero naging mabigat sa dibdib ang lahat. First boyfriend kasi siya ni King and we are so careful about it and the whole situation.

Kayo?

Mayroon ba kayong gustong ipayo kay King?





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Pasensya na kung may maliliit na details ang kulang, lasing ako nung sinimulang ko ang pag screenshot

29 comments:

  1. Dear blogger,

    Kailangan lang nilang intindihin ang isa't-isa at baka hindi lang din sila ang bituing iniikutan ng kanilang mga mundo. Gets? Hindi umiikot ang mundo nila sa isa't isa kahit na ang isa sa kanila ay maaring ganun ang gustong mangyari at yung isa naman ay hindi. Normal lang iyon. Huwag ipilit ang ayaw, ngunit hindi ibig sabihin noon ay hindi na prioridad ang relasyon o ang pag-iibigan.

    Kailangan lang naman nilang maunawaan na may buhay pa sila sa labas ng relasyon. Huwag maging demanding, huwag ding maging insensitive. Tama lang. Ang mabuting relasyon at ang pagmamaintain nito ay parang pagluluto, kailangan tinututukan na may tamang init at tamang sangkap.

    Huwag din tayong magmarunong kung anu ba ang tama at mali, lahat naman tayo ay hindi perpekto at hindi rin naman natin malalaman kung tama nga ba o mali ang isang bagay hangga't sa dulo ng ating mapait at masayang paglalakbay sa buhay.

    Huwag paikutin ang buhay sa isang lalake o sa ideya ng pag-ibig. Huwag magkaroon ng batas o mga regulasyon kung paano nga ba isaayos ang isang relasyon. Dahil wala naman talagang tama o maling paraan para maging maayos ito. Nasa ating paniniwala lamang ang makakapagsabi ng mali sa tama. Ako naman ay naniniwala lamang sa natural na pagmamahalan at ito na lamang ang gagawa ng paraan. No rules ika nga, gawin na lang ang dapat, gawin ang anumang nais ng puso at hindi dapat puro dikta ng ating isipan. Kadalasan kasi ng nailalabas ng sobrang pag-iisip ay kaguluhan lamang. Just let it be and with love everything is going to be just fine.

    Hindi ko kayo o sila kilala pero yun lamang ang mga maipapayo ko.

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    1. You've raised a lot of good points here. I appreciate the time and effort that you had given just to raise your cents about the situation. I'm sure King would understand and grasps the same thoughts that you have ignited in me. I was nodding my head the entire time I was reading your comment. Thank you sir.

      However (just for the sake of mature "discussion")

      I would have actually agreed on your points completely if it weren't because of one thing "gawin ang anumang nais ng puso at hindi dapat puro dikta ng ating isipan" I think this is a little bit of idealistic rather than being realistic. I feel that in real world, in reality - we have to use our head from time to time in making decisions coz settlements, resolution and commitment -- in every situation, in every scenario that we make would greatly affect our relationship with others. I feel that relying on our hearts and emotions alone are not enough to make a wise and responsible decisions. Tandaan na hindi lahat ng nararamdaman natin ay tama at nararapat.

      But, otherwise you've made a great advice

      :)

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    2. Thank you for taking time to read my comment, your points taken. :-) but what I really wanted to reiterate in simple form of words... is that over thinking kills.

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  2. stay away from such sites and apps
    instead hang-out with friends

    I myself is more comfortable when my partner's with his friends rather than having him linger on such sites. Andun naman ung trust and all pero hindi kasi maiwasan ung pagseselos and ung pag-aalala

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    1. I agree pero malaki ang tiwala kasi ni King eh

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  3. Kung mag-aaway man sila, or mag-uusap ng masinsinan, gawin nila sa personal.

    Kung hindi man posible, kahit through tawag na lang.

    Pero never via text messages. Kasi madalas, wala naman nareresolba at lalo lang lumalala.

    At if mag-tatalo sila, in Tagalog na lang kasi. *hehe* (joke lang to ha) :P

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    1. (joke lang to ha) :P

      -Kabisado mo na ako ah

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    2. Kapag gusto may paraan, kapag ayaw may dahilan.

      Ang problema, masyado siyang maraming dahilan. Pucha. :P

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    3. Uy! teka! san galing yun

      Easy....

      Kagulat ka ah

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    4. I was referring to R. :) *hugs*

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    5. R? who's R? may nakikita ka bang ndi namin nakikita?

      Hahahahaha

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    6. Ahahahahahahahahahahaha!

      R is our friend namin yan di ko binanggit name ng jowa ni King but it's Cassandra. Choz!

      It's Chino.

      Magulo ata pagkakasulat ko

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    7. Ah. Toinks.

      Hindi. Bobo lang ako magbasa. :P

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  4. I don't buy the boyfriend's lame excuse on Grindr. Hindi kapani-paniwala. Bitter much lang haha. Dapat pag nasa relasyon na, wala nang ganun ganun. O ayan, kung di pa nahuli ng friend ni King, di pa malalaman na nagkucruise pa ang lolo mo. Mas matimbang ang point ni King for me. Pero sana, they could talk about this nang mas masinsinan. From what I see, parang kulang sila ng communication. O ayan biglang naglabasan ng emosyon sa text, ang intense ah! Parang biglang naglabasan ng sama ng loob. Yun lang po. Bow. Mag-iisip pa ako mamaya ulit. :)

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    1. Yeah, excuse was actually lame. I saw the screenshot ang mas nakakaloka yung caption. There was an excerpt of a lyrics from a love song and I was like.. what the?!

      Yun yung nakalimutan ko i-probe kay King yung communication nila

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    2. Ay! nabura ko ata yung isa mo pang comment shet!

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    3. Nabura mo nga! Di ko na maalala sinabi ko. Haha. Wala sa trash? Lol

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  5. Ugh. Nabasa ko pa lang yung "hobby mang reverse psych" at "Grindr to find old frriends in CGS" I saw a red flag waving.

    CHEATER ALERT. BREAK UP. NOW.

    I hate mind games. I should be most relaxed with the person whom I love and trust.

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    1. Actually the guy is a lil bit of douche-y based sa history niya

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  6. wow hobby magreverse psych. weird. no no no ang ganiyan sa'kin. parang ginago na siya agad. lol

    anyway hindi rin ako makapagadvice. nbsb ako e. lol

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    1. Well, you can still site your opinion subjectively right? :)

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  7. nagleak yung utak sa nostrils ko. tindi mag -inglish.

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  8. Aside from his brain killing skills in creating prose in english.. he made a good point right?

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  9. upuan at mag usap silang dalawa :-0

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  10. Grindr is a hopeless place. And I'm proud to have found loved in it. Both of us had to quit the app to avoid this kind of problem.

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    1. taray dapat ang theme song niyo i found love in a hopeless place ni rihanna. choz.

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  11. Madalas naman kasi parehas may point, we have different personalities and wants eh. That's the challenge to every relationship, kelangan niyo gumawa ng paraan to reconcile. You don't necessary need to agree, instead what you need is to understand. Kelangan mag meet kayo sa solution na win-win ang situation hindi ung pabor lang sa isa. Kung di pa rin kayo magka sundo, then it's time to move on. It's better to cut it early kesa naman mag asawa na kayo - mas lala pa yan! :) <P.S I so love reading your blog)

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    1. Nakaka inspire naman po yung PS niyo. Sa totoo lang wala na ako maisip isulat at ikuwento pero dahil sa PS mo ginanahan naman ako.

      Maraming salamat po :)

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